Tuesday, 29 December, 1829

Our matrimonial life seems to move smoothly down the current of time; peace and a degree of pleasure has for some time found an asylum in our dwelling. And had not similar feelings before been succeeded by those of an adverse nature, we probably would have more grounds to hope our pleasant sensations would be more durable. I find that happiness must be found in our own mind and in our own habitation. It is in vain we seek for it abroad. No, our own fireside should always be made cheerful and pleasant by the radiance of the serenity of our minds. We were seated by a good pleasant fire, when we were interrupted by a young would-be lawyer named Appelt, and all that makes him disagreeable is he is endeavoring to peep into every lady's bureau if it should accidentally be left open. And if there be ladies working in the house, he is sure to be prying into┬Ětheir business much to his own disgrace and disgust of all who know him. No gentleman will do this. It shows meanness and low breeding. I hope you will studiously avoid all these disgraceful things and be superior to them. It most assuredly is none of your business whether a female be making a night dress or silk frock. It is much the better way for every individual in the community to pay diligent attention to his own affairs and never be overanxious to see into those of other individuals foreigh to his own interest. Such meddling people are never highly respected, and indeed ought not to be, because they have no respect for others or they would act different. This same individual frequently had the impudence to ask me what was the diseases of females on whom I attended. Never be guilty of such impropriety.